Communication in life can be seen as an iceberg,the surface above the water is the manifestation and the surface underneath the water represents the reasons, the subtle communication and the subtle reasons, the subtle interactions between people.
We communicate with our eyes, with our face, gestures, attitude, we say a lot with our relaxation or lack of it, with our inner peace, with our words, tone of voice, posture, choice of words, speed, the intentions and of ours with our actions.
And sometimes people can have challenging behaviors which need forgiving, putting into their own place but also connecting with them but disengaging from unwanted unhealthy behavior, reinforcing peaceful, harmonious, wise and healthy behavior but most of all keeping in mind that I Have the Honor, the Privilege and the Right and Gentleness of Being myself. And so does everyone else.
How much do we appreciate about others, how much do we worry? it depends on every one of us to work wisely with clues such as fear or worry, because they can serve us only up to a certain point. The most important aspect is that maintaining a certain state, mental or physical is usually a choice, and it depends on the individual, that means that every one of us have power and responsibility over our thoughts, feelings and state, learning to use it to our advantage.
Keep track of your feelings. What is underneath them? Feelings are generated by thoughts even though it can seem an automatic response, they are still generated by frequent thoughts pattern that you can change if you wish.
Are your thoughts serving you? Are they, your thoughts peaceful, loving, appreciative of yourself, the world and others? Do your words, behaviors, thoughts energize you, give you enthusiasm, love, peace and health in your body and mind? Where do you put your focus? On solutions, on appreciation, on seeing what already is and what can we do with what we already have built up until now?
Keep a good mental state and space because it does enormously for you and others. God is on your side, the divine intelligence of the universe is within you and everywhere around you, choose to tune into it. Choose to tune into the love of your cells, your every cell is love and peace and wants you highest good. God, divine universal intelligence love and wisdom is for you, is on your side.
Bring efficiency to your own mind, body and spirit. Keep track of your mental patterns, of your time, money, habits, the words you choose and where you give your outmost enthusiasm and feeling. Is it for the news or drama soaps, or TV shows? Acknowledge that for many of those a lot of energy is required. Detach from the drama, in your family, in your community and rather look for solutions. Why? Because you want to direct your best energy for the better, for loving the good in your life and making better.
Sometimes the more naughty people are, like children, the more attention and appreciation and love they need. Sometimes you need to disengage from them, from their behavior, to distance yourself from them. However, it is so beautiful to fill their love tank. Gary Chapman in his book writes about The Five Love Languages : words of appreciation, acts of service, quality time, touch, gifts. Acknowledge which is you predominant language of love and how you want it expressed to you and inform yourself and understand the love languages of other people.
Do several gestures of love and appreciation and watch them bloom and expand, become generous, more loving and caring. However, some people continue their tests, mostly because they feel into us, they are sensitive both with the good and bad within us. And they want to understand life, to expand, and so they test life and life tests us thorough them. In these moments:
- disengage respectfully, know your limits and your priorities
- make a SWOT analysis for the benefits of your collaboration: Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, Threats;
- make time for yourself, to see and admire the sunset, the flowers, your wonderful breath
- follow your breath, your inner guidance and intuition, speak your truth with love…. today
Through all these you gain mental clarity, you can think logically, working on facts, step by step, you understand in detail but also in overall, connecting with your own self and also feeling in the others heart.